Ladies: How to Use Our God-Given Superpower For Good
Tarah Avery
Have you ever heard the phrase, “Happy wife, happy life?” Yeah…there’s something to that.
Every woman has this ability. It’s like it was built in us. If we really want to, we can use it. Some use it daily; others use it now and again (at the appropriate times); still, others are too timid to let it come to fruition.
So what is it? What is it that makes the phrase “Happy wife, happy life” so famous – not only to husbands but all men – and make women laugh and say, “That’s right!” so spot on?
The answer is this: atmosphere. We have the power to change the atmosphere around us! We can fill a room with tension when right before it was filled with laughter. And vice versa.
Men know this, that is why they know that if “wifey” isn’t happy, their life won’t be, either.
It’s amazing what we can do as women. We can feel a certain way and then our whole home and all who come near us will feel it, too. We give off vibes that other people can sense from far away! We are atmosphere changers.
The question is, how will we use this “superpower?” Will we use it for good or for harm? To bring peace or discord? Encouragement or discouragement? Judgment or acceptance?
Proverbs says,
“A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.” -Proverbs 14:1
Will you choose to build up your home, or tear it down?
It is our duty as women to bring safety and security to our homes. What this means ladies, is that we cannot act based on our feelings alone. If we did, we could bring so much harm to our families.
You see, crud builds up if you don’t take care of it, and over time it will only make your heart hard, bitter, and angry. I’ve experienced this and it is no picnic to be around. In fact, it can create barriers in intimate relationships. And aren’t healthy relationships what we’re striving for?
When we become a person like that (hard, bitter, angry) people don’t want to be around us. We have made ourselves unsafe and unwelcoming.
Does this mean that we don’t deal with the hard stuff? Of course not! Does this mean that we are to be perfect always? Of course not! That’s impossible.
But what it does mean is that when we are dealing with hard things, we always bring our hearts back to Jesus. We can ask him to show us where we failed so that next time he can help us do better. And as we cultivate this trust with Jesus, it begins to get better.
Eventually, we grow a joy deep down inside of us that shines outwardly for all to see. And a joyful atmosphere is the best one to be around.
Choosing to embrace the hard stuff in order to bring security and peace to your family is not easy. But when we really try – despite how incredibly difficult it is – we can succeed, and our family will praise us for it.
“Who can find a virtuous and capable wife? She is more precious than rubies. Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” – Proverbs 31:10-12
Do you want to be the woman described in Proverbs 31? “Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” That’s beautiful!
Ask yourself these questions:
Evaluate your home now.
What are your family relationships like? Is there peace or discord? Encouragement or discouragement? Judgment or acceptance?
Recognizing and being aware of the current state of your home is important.
Evaluate yourself.
Are you harboring any bitterness, resentment, or anger? Ask God to reveal these things to you and to find freedom from them.
Be Intentional.
Now that you’re aware, be intentional about what type of atmosphere you are bringing to your home. Take care of yourself so that you can take care of your family. Go on walks, talk things out, pray often, take bubble baths, drink a glass of wine if you need it (but don’t overdo it), take counseling if that will help. If your husband is up for it, ask him for a massage. Do whatever it is that will allow you to de-stress, refocus, and reconnect with your loved ones. Do it and do it more.
Soon enough, our homes become safe and welcoming, a place of rest and peace. That is what you are capable of bringing to your home, allowing your family to experience. That is what home is. Let’s cultivate our homes into something beautiful, inviting, peaceful, and all else that you wish your home to be.
Each woman today needs to understand and accept the strength of her God-given influence. Choosing to be the greatest possible influence on those around her, every person that comes across the pathway of her life. What a responsibility, privilege, and opportunity we have been given!
How have you used your superpower for good this week?
I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below! Feel free to share the bad stuff too, email us, or DM me on Instagram. Remember I am here to encourage you. It is not easy learning how to cultivate and maintain healthy relationships that thrive, but it is worth it.
All my Love,
